by Shaune Jonasson
From its once dark origins in ancient Rome where it is believed the Emperor Claudius II executed two men both named Valentine on February 14 of two different years, Valentine’s Day has evolved into a much kinder celebration, in fact, a very intimate celebration honoring affection and love.
The evolution of Valentine’s Day sweetened by poets and writers with words of affection saw the emergence of the greeting card. Thereafter, cards were frequently accompanied by chocolates, flowers, sometimes jewels or fragrances. Gifts were showered upon the lady by her smitten man. In more recent times, Valentine’s Day may include an intimate dinner for two. Others may host parties celebrating togetherness, showing affection for dear friends. Valentine’s Day has become very commercialized; it’s big business. Regardless, celebrations continue in many ways.
Valentine’s Day in Iceland is more of a low-key celebration compared to what we are familiar with in North America. It’s not a traditional holiday there. Rather, Icelander’s celebrate and honor their men and women on two separate occasions, each one based on Iceland’s unique history and traditions that go back to the age of Vikings.
Bóndadagur celebrates the men and Konudagur celebrates the women.
Bóndadagur
Bóndadagur translates to “man” or “farmer” and comes from the Icelandic word "Bondi." The celebration recognizes the role of the man as the provider for the family. Additionally, it may also be called “Farmer’s Day” based on the farming heritage of Iceland.
Each year Bóndadagur is celebrated on the first day of Þorri (Thorey) in the midwinter period of the Norse calendar. This month begins in late January. For 2025, Bóndadagur was celebrated on the 24th of January. Þorri symbolizes the return of light, and that spring isn’t too far away.
There is a customary gesture by the man of the household to welcome Þorri by stepping outside of his home with very little clothing on. He apparently has one leg in his trousers with the other trouser leg flopping along while he runs barefoot around the house, illustrating his bravery against the elements and his preparedness for the remainder of winter, concurrent with bringing good fortune to the home. The woman of the house treats her husband exceptionally well on this day.
If you’re interested in the historical element of the Bóndadagur traditions, there is an article written by Sunna Furstenau for Icelandic Roots here: Delay Bóndadagur!
Konudagur
Konudagur, ("Konu" meaning wife) or “Wife’s Day,” celebrates the women and wives and all they do for their family and community. It is held on the first day of the month Góa in the Norse calendar. Góa follows the month of Þorri. Konudagur will be celebrated on the 23rd of February in 2025. As the days continue to be brighter, the month of Góa represents a renewed hope with spring approaching. Days become longer, the weather gets warmer.
As Bóndadagur celebrates the men, it is believed that Konudagur is its counterpart. During the Viking Age, the women’s roles and their contributions were equally important. The men honor their wives by making the day extra special for them, often preparing the meal or offering a unique gift. Gestures of gratitude and respect are also shown towards mothers, sisters, daughters and other special women of the family.
Konudagur remains an important celebration reflecting the values of equality that is linked to Iceland’s identity. Men continue to honor and respect the women in their lives, as the women do for the men; reflecting a cultural balance. In an earlier Icelandic Roots News article, Sunna Furstenau wrote about the history about Konudagur. Click here Women's Day – Konudagur to read the story.
Also, click on this title, Þorri and Góa, if you would like to read more about these two Norse calendar months.
Valentine’s Day
So, what about Valentine’s Day in Iceland? Well, with two similar yet unique holidays flanking Valentine’s Day, the Icelandic people have much to celebrate in a short period of time. The celebrations of Konudagur and Bóndadagur are imbedded in the Icelandic culture, but they also embrace the romantic gestures of Valentine’s Day. Flowers, often red roses, that may be accompanied by chocolate, fragrances, or other gifts, are given to entice the affections of that special someone.
Searching the internet brings up numerous sites for romantic activities or getaways in Iceland. Some claim Iceland is the perfect destination for “love birds” with a promise of romance and adventure.
If you’re an adventurer, consider exploring outdoor activities. Diamonds are synonymous with Valentines, so how about riding a charming Icelandic horse on Diamond Beach? Or the black sand beach? Maybe a visit to an ice cave? Relax in one of the many hot pools or lagoons, day or night, indoors or out. If you prefer the indoor cozy and cuddly elements of Valentines, there are many places where one can rent a cabin or a room that overlooks the beauty that is unique only to Iceland. As evening descends, enjoy dinner for two, or with friends at a party. Top off the evening watching the Northern Lights dance across the sky.
Wherever you are for Valentine’s Day, this is a day about expressing love and affection to those that matter most. Share the time with those dear to you. It could be with someone in your family, your best friend, or a neighbor. Or, for those of us who receive unconditional love everyday from our furry four-legged family, share the day with them. Or just share the day with you; be extra kind and pamper yourself. You deserve it!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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Valentines Day In Iceland